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THE GIFT OF A DOULA

 If you are in the position to give a daughter, daughter-in-law, girlfriend, 35476_498439723552500_336163383_n 577252_498440090219130_1358449181_nniece, any pregnant woman who is in your life a gift…

                                give her the gift of a birth doula!

<I will create a special gift certificate that will explain the benefits of having a doula attend her birth, as well as what my services include.

I will even come in person to present your gift to her!

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  Include the expense of my birth pool, or give separately!

You will find a listing of my services and fees, as well as my contact information, at           TriadBirthDoula.com  

 

What Does a Birth Doula Do and Not Do?

Tuesday, 24 July 2012 00:02 

posted on TBS (The Birthing Site) page:

 http://www.thebirthingsite.com/birthing-assistance/item/586-what-does-a-birth-doula-do-and-not-do?.html

Written by  Kenny Shulman

WHAT IS SUPPORT?

Support is unconditional.

It is listening…

not judging, not telling your own story.

Support is not offering advice…

it is offering a handkerchief, a touch, a hug…caring.

We are here to help women discover what they are feeling…

not to make the feelings go away.

We are here to help a woman identify her options…

not to tell her what options to choose.

We are here to discuss steps with a woman…

not to take the steps for her.

We are here to help a woman discover her own strength…

not to rescue her and leave her still vulnerable.

We are here to help a woman discover she can help herself…

not to take that responsibility for her.

We are here to help a woman learn to choose…

not to make it unnecessary for her to make difficult choices.

~ Anonymous

 

 

 

Who I am as a Doula

As a DONA certified birth doula, I accompany women in labor to help ensure a safe and satisfying birth experience. I am DONA trained and adhere to DONA’s “Code of Ethics” and “Standards of Practice” (as stated at www.DONA.org). I draw on my professional training, knowledge, experience, and my own son’s birth to provide emotional support, physical comfort, and as needed, communication with other professional staff to make sure that you have the information you need to make informed decisions as they arise in labor. I can provide reassurance and perspective to you and your partner, make suggestions for labor progress, and help with relaxation, massage, positioning, and other techniques for comfort. I am independent and self-employed. As your doula, I am working for you, not your caregiver or hospital.

Before Labor

I will meet with you and your partner a few times before labor, as well as communicate by phone and email, to become acquainted.  We will explore and discuss priorities and any fears or concerns, discuss your birth plan and to plan how we might work best together. I also want to know your own best ways of coping with pain and fatigue and how you and your partner foresee working together.

I usually wish to go with you for at least one doctor visit, preferably towards the end of your pregnancy. This gives me additional information so that I might best serve you.

I will also inform you of times when I am unavailable for labor support. To cover those times, I will arrange for a qualified back-up doula whom you may also meet.

When You are in Labor

I prefer that you call me when you think you are in labor, even if you do not yet need me. I can answer questions and make suggestions over the phone. We will decide if I should come right then or wait for further change. I usually need approximately one hour to get to you from the time you ask me to come. We will also decide where to meet – at your home, the hospital, or the birth center. Except for extraordinary circumstances, I will remain with you throughout labor and birth. If there is a limitation on the number of people who may be present, it will be assumed that I will always be present.

After Birth

I usually will remain with you for one or two hours after birth; until you are comfortable and/or your family is ready for time together. I can also assist with initial breastfeeding. I am available to answer questions about the birth or your baby. I would like to visit while you are still in the hospital. I would then like to get together about a week after you return home to see how you and your baby are doing, to deliver a special letter to your baby, to review the birth, and to get feedback from you about my role.
AS A DOULA, I DO NOT:

  1. Perform clinical tasks, such as blood pressure, fetal heart checks, vaginal exams, and others. I am there to provide only physical comfort and emotional support.
  2. Make decisions for you. I will help you get the information necessary to make an informed decision. I will remind you if there is a departure from your birth plan, however.
  3. Speak to the staff on your behalf. I will discuss your concerns with you and suggest options, but you or your partner will need to speak directly to the clinical staff. I may, however, ask questions of the staff in order to facilitate discussion.
  4. Tell you what to do. I will only make suggestions based on my training and experience.
  5. Replace your partner. Rather, we work together, as a team, to help make you feel safe, protected. It is then that you are able to let yourself go with what nature intends for a woman who is giving birth.

 

I believe this quote from Tao Te Ching beautifully summarizes what a doula does……

“You are a birth servant. Do good without show or fuss. If you must

take the lead, lead so that the mother is helped, yet still free and

in charge. When the baby is born, they will rightly say: ‘We did it

ourselves!’

Thank you, TBS, for sharing!!! 

For more awesome information, go to: http://www.thebirthingsite.com

My Promises To You

A while back I came across this…

The Promise Of A Doula

~ provided by Belly Belly

1. You cannot hurt my feelings in labour!
2. I won’t lie to you in labour!
3. I will do everything in my power so you do not suffer!
4. I will help you to feel safe!
5. I cannot speak for you; but I will make sure that you have a voice and I will make sure you are heard!

I just love this and have ever since adopted it as my own promises
                                         to you……my client!
 
I also wish to add that when I am with you and I am working with the medical staff…….
I am not working for your care provider and I am not working for the hospital……
I am working for you!

She is a doula!

I have not been able to track down the source of this picture…but I do know all doulas are appreciative of the sentiment. So…thank you, whoever and wherever you are!!!

I AM DOULA

A friend recently took this of me as I was preparing to meet a couple for the birth of their baby.

It just tickles me!

I have labeled it “I AM DOULA!” Kind of like I am woman, I am capable, I am strong.

I hope that is what my mamas see reflected back to themselves.

I can do this! It is not going to be easy but… I am woman, I am strong, I am capable,  and I CAN DO THIS!

WHAT I REALLY DO!

                                                                                        BORROWED FROM FACEBOOK. WISH I KNEW WHO CREATED THIS SO I COULD THANK THEM!

Merry Christmas!!!

Merry Christmas to all of our friends…friends of many years, newly met friends, and those we have yet to know!!! Have a wonderful time on this special day and in the new year that follows!!!

 

  Kenny & Ty

 

 

Birth Doulas are for ANY kind of childbirth!!!

More and more people seem to understand the benefits a birth doula has to offer to a woman and her family, when that woman wishes to have a natural childbirth experience.

But how many people realize what benefits a doula offers when a woman chooses to use an epidural? Or how about the comfort a doula is able to give when there is a cesarean?

When a women tells me she wishes to have an epidural as soon as possible, I smile and assure her that I understand her wishes, which are absolutely her right.

I then explain how our local hospital does not typically admit a woman until she is in active labor. I suggest we work  on ways of coping until she is admitted, even how to stay active in triage. I then move on to the realities and mechanics of having an epidural. After this, I discuss her second stage of labor…actually giving birth. Then her wishes for her new born baby should be planned for, such as skin-to-skin, bonding, breastfeeding, having the nursery staff come to her and her baby.

Every time I am with a woman who suddenly finds she is going to have a cesarean, there is disbelief, deep regret, confusion…..an overall feeling of being a failure in some way. Her family is usually at a lost, feeling much the same way. And did I mention fear? I, as a doula, am there to help qualm these rampant and sudden emotions. I guess my job is to help restore peacefulness. I work fast and furious to try to accomplish this, assuring the woman that I will still be there for her. After all, there is still much work for me after the baby is delivered.

My point with these ramblings…a birth doula is there to provide physical, emotional, and informational support to the mother and her partner before, during, and just after birth…

NO MATTER WHAT TYPE OF CHILDBIRTH!!!

What Is Our Fee All About?

“Giving Birth with Confidence” recently posted this article:

Understanding a Birth Doula’s Fees

August 12, 2011 By Cara TerreriIf you’re considering hiring a doula for your birth, you may be wondering about the make-up of her fees, which can range from $400 – $1,000+. While the support of a well-trained doula is invaluable, it’s helpful to know what you’re paying for. Demetria Clark of Birth Arts International shares the following information in a recent post at Inspired Birth Pro: 

If you charge $400 per birth, this is a simple breakdown to consider:

Time with parents – 5 hours (prenatals and phone calls)

Time at birth – 10 hours (sometimes much longer, sometimes much shorter, but 10 is a midline average)

Time in postpartum – 3 hours

Postpartum visits, if you offer – 2 – 3 hours

Driving time – 3 hours average

Prep and research time – 2 hours

Total of 26 hours, which works out to be approximately $15.38 per hour

Other costs worth mentioning are gas, parking (if applicable), childcare for the doula during the time she is working with you, and meals or snacks for the doula during your birth (my doula also packs special snacks in her bag for the laboring mom).
I certainly agree with this. However, I also believe very strongly in DONA’s vision:
“A doula for every woman who wants one.”
Please…never let finances deter you from using a doula!