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Instructions for Attending a Normal Birth

Amanda_Greavette~ Samantha Norman ~

Watch me.
Watch me lean over and groan.
Watch me sway or rock or dance.
Watch me find my rhythm.
Watch me breathe through a contraction.
As it ends, watch me have a drink of water.

Then watch me relax myself, resting, waiting for the41613_121956404589320_597789528_n next wave.
Then watch me breathe again.
As you sit there, just outside the vortex, know that my world has shrunk to a bubble.
Be careful. Don’t burst it.
A careless word, a bright light… they would be unwelcome right now.
Watch in awe I play out the age-old miracle.
The world turns for me, the edges go fuzzy, time turns inside out.


There’s a big slithery feeling
And then there’s a BABY!
Warm and slippery and fresh from my own body.
Worth every push, grunt, drop of sweat.
Worth every tightening, every stretch mark.

Wait! I’m still in my bubble. It is not finished yet.AmandaGreavette05-630x1024
Keep your hats and your clamps and your scissors and needles.
Keep your telephones, your scales, your exclamations
Keep us warm and keep the room quiet and still.
Watch me meet me baby.
Watch his eyes find mine.
Watch his hands and then his mouth find my nipple.
Watch me discover in wonder each finger, each hair, each wrinkle
Don’t disturb the awe of this first meeting.
Please. Just watch.


Thank you, Samantha, for allowing me to post your beautiful poem. For more of Samantha’s wisdom, visit

Thank you Amanda Greavette for allowing me to include your “fine art”!
You can see more of this beautiful body of work at






We believe that women should be treated with kindness and respect in childbirth !
We believe that bullying and coercion have no place in healthcare!
We believe that dignity and compassion are not too much to ask for pregnant women!




When I’m having a contraction…please do not ask me a question!



                                                              Dr. Michael Odent has said…..

“Silence is a basic need for a woman in labor. Privacy is another basic need.”

When I’m having a contraction…please do not tell me what I’m doing wrong!



When I’m having a contraction…please do not fuss at me!

                                                                                            ” The support a woman receives in labor and birth makes the difference between empowerment and trauma.” ~Mrs. BWF<                                                                                             

When I’m in labor…please respect my choices!

It is just respect, something that every human being should extend to others. And imagine what if we all did respect each other. Imagine the possibilities, beginning with birth.

It really is not that difficult. The Midwives and Nurses in these pictures gave these women and men respect…right here at Women’s Hospital of Greensboro, NC.<

Why can’t this happen everywhere??? It just is not that difficult!!! Respect!!!



When I’m in labor…please enter quietly, peacefully, lovingly…and respectfully!



Allow it to unfold in its own way, at its own pace.

Allow yourself to feel what you feel, and then allow those <feelings to pass.

Allow yourself to be transformed by the experience.

Allow the pain, the altered state of consciousness, the restlessness and hot flashes to be present.

Allow the opening, the intensity, the transition.

Allow the fact that things might not go exactly as you had hoped and planned for.

~ Michelle Carchrae